The Prophet PBUH said,
“A good friend and a bad friend are like a perfume-seller and a blacksmith: The perfume-seller might give you some perfume as a gift, or you might buy some from him, or at least you might smell its fragrance. As for the blacksmith, he might singe your clothes, and at the very least you will breathe in the fumes of the furnace.”
Alhamdulillah, I am blessed to be surrounded by incredible friends, people who I inspire me just by their existence and today I wanted to shine a light on a special somebody aka The Millenial Muslim , because I’ve been reflecting on these lessons a lot this week and wanted to share it with you all.
Number One: Love Allah First
Suad is obsessed with love but in a good way. From ways to cultivate love with the people around you, loving people in a way that honours them, to loving yourself, she is your go-to person for all questions related to love. But the one thing I love about her is how much she emphasises and truly lives the concept that love for Allah always comes first.
Allah is the irreplaceable factor in our lives.
He is the source of love that is pure, and only through him can we love others in a way that is truly fulfilling and not destructive.
Number Two: Be Your Own Hype Queen
We just had a conversation this week about how she replies to compliments from people with “I know, thank you.” And I just found it so hilarious and amazing at the same time! I love when people understand their worth and their value such that it doesn’t depend on external validation. You honestly cannot get a bigger hype queen than Suad and that energy and confidence is infectious. Remember no one can give you the love that you deserve other than yourself.
And how you treat yourself acts as a signal for how other people can treat you.
Believe in yourself, hype yourself and practice self-compassion. I wrote a post on The Importance of Positive Internal Dialogue last year that might be useful.
Number Three: Live Life To The Fullest
I’m not the most adventurous person so it’s great to be surrounded by people who are spontaneous and adventurous. One of my favourite memories this year was seeing a Nigerian show that took me back to my childhood and that wouldn’t have been possible without Suad. But the main lesson is that life is there for you to enjoy. Try new things. Go to new places. And create memories as she likes to say.
Hope these lessons resonate with you all. What’s the biggest life lesson you’ve learnt to date?