The theme of Mental Health Awareness Week this year is relationships. Before writing about relationship with others, I wanted to focus first on relationship with the self and approach the topic from a different angle.
What is the meaning of mindfulness?
Mindfulness is often defined as the practice of bringing one’s attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment, which can be developed through the practice of meditation.
The definition for mindfulness can certainly vary based on the individual. Personally, mindfulness is about attaining a state of self awareness. A state where I am attune with my emotions and needs in a way that promotes harmony and alignment.
This year I have definitely learnt to be more in tune with myself and recognise my needs spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. Having a mindful relationship with yourself is important as a foundation block for building good relationships with others.
Key lessons based on my mindful relationship with myself
- I learnt to be more forgiving of myself, of my mistakes, of my imperfections.
- I learnt to say No. An inability to say No often comes from wanting to please others, so exercising that ‘No’ muscle like Iyanla Vanzant says is one of the ways in which you assert to yourself that you matter. It’s okay to say No to avoid being overwhelmed.
- I learnt to trust my instincts when making decisions. To trust my body to tell me what I needed when I needed it, e.g. breaks!
- I learnt about the power of vulnerability – shout out to Brene Brown! Her interviews are a must watch
- I learnt that gratitude is not just a pillar for spirituality but it helps in every area of life in miraculous ways at times.
My focus at September when I created my vision board – post on this later – was to rediscover the things that I loved and find new ones. Below is my personal self care actions.
- Reading – I have been reading a lot this year and it reminds me of when I was in secondary school and I used to read 2 – 3 books a week. Golden days!
- Yoga and Meditation
- Keeping a journal
- Going out for a walk
- Healthy eating
- Writing – poetry, non-fiction
I wouldn’t say that all of the above are consistent but right now I’m just in a rhythm where I do them when I feel that it’s necessary. The next step for me is to create a routine In sha Allah.
Check out the pictures below for self care tips.